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Another great article Kate! I fully agree with you!!! My thinking - when you are drinking and you know you have a problem, but you never want to be called an alcoholic, or a lush or an alky or any number of titles. It's embarrassing and humiliating! Which is good - it pushes you towards recovery. Fast forward to recovery - now the term alcoholic is a badge of honor, you are eager to keep others from falling in to the same trap; you are part of a community, like it or not. It is part of who you are - and you have no choice. You can and drink and be an alcoholic - you'll just never find out if you have that affinity for overindulgence if you choose not to drink! We are all addicts, everyone! If anyone took heroine long enough, they would get hooked - thus an addict. I'm an heroine addict who's never tried heroin!🤔

You can rename Cancer to "Cotton Candy", it might make you feel better, but you still have CANCER!☠

Bottom line - you can't polish a turd!💩

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Thank you so much Stu! I love your feedback! And it made me so laugh SO much - you can’t polish a Turd! 😂😂😂😂 I wish I’d thought to put that in my article!

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Jul 11, 2023Liked by Kate Davidson

I love your honesty and they you see the world. Keep being you who ever you are, the world needs you!

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Julia, Stuart is a legend from the Twitter Recovery Posse world!

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Legend???🙄

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Yup! Total legend, Stuart! 😁

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As someone who is sober for one year, I needed all the help I could get. Thank you for the constant reminders and words. They are necessary.

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You are welcome Noah 🙏🏼

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Conflicted, indeed! Some days I hate the word alcoholic but then again, it is what it is! I do think that whatever helps you stay sober is what you should do.

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I never hate the word, but I hate what others think of the word. And especially hate when influential people decry the word when their followers and readers need the opportunity to identify with any word that helps then get sober!

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True! I guess that is why I sometimes hate the word when it really is because of what others think of it. Good point.

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Jul 7, 2023Liked by Kate Davidson

Thank you again for your honesty, it’s inspiring. My last two weeks of 18 weeks has defiantly been my hardest. Keep writing and keep helping me grow my understanding x

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You are welcome. Stay strong Julia. The last two weeks would have been hard for anyone in your position! You have to remember what you have been through physically and how much you give to others on a regular basis. You’re in pain and you are not able to care for others the way you normally do. That’s so tough xxx

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Thank you Julia, that is very kind of you to say... God willing, I'm not going anywhere!❤

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That was the most perfect words I needed to here, they were a gift, thank you!

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deletedAug 5, 2023Liked by Kate Davidson
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Hey Pippa

I completely agree with everything you say!

The sober coach’s positioning smacks of denial,

And 100% if you think you have a problem you probably do - i think I’ve written those exact words in another post!

I didn’t realise Annie Grace gave us the “choice” argument. I haven’t read that much quit lit (on my to-do list!). I doubt she meant anything but well by it, but I’m with you when you say if you have a physical problem with alcohol it just doesn’t work like that. I can’t drink. I choose not to drink because I can’t drink. I am one drink away from never being sober again. To tell people with physical addiction that it’s an actual choice is a very scary message.

Thank you for reading and thank you for joining the conversation 🙏🏼 Kate Xox

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